July 11th, 2019 was the big day my husband and I had been waiting a long time for. It was the day he finally had his surgery to reverse the vasectomy he got when he was 23 years old. You can read all about that post here. The time and process to get us to that very day felt like a journey. The hardest part to face about it was that it was only the beginning to the actual journey it was going to be for us to become parents.
We chose Seattle Reproductive medicine to do the surgery. They are local for us and I’ve only heard amazing things about them. Our first step was contacting them to set up our consultation appointment. During that time, they explain different treatment options, the cost and to go over medical history to make sure the procedure is a right fit for you. Before our appointment we both had a stack of papers we filled out. It was a questionnaire about your medical history as well as any immediate family members. The consultation takes about 30 min.
The tricky part about it is the surgery must be paid for in full for you to schedule your surgery date. The procedure cost was $7,500, at least at Seattle reproductive medicine and that’s not always easy for everyone to come up with that amount of cash. Unfortunately, at the time that’s the position my husband and I were in. So, we had to try to save that amount of money or they have loans you can apply for. The good news was we qualified for a loan to cover the surgery. It wasn’t the route we wanted to go but we knew how much this meant to us and in our eyes for us personally it was worth it to take the loan. At that point we were finally able to get our surgery date on the calendar, but it was still going to be another 3 months out. In the big picture 3 months isn’t that long of a wait but it that moment it felt like we had waited forever.
The week leading up to the surgery was so nerve racking for me. Especially because I deal with anxiety. The thought that we would spend all this money on the surgery and there is still that chance the surgery wouldn’t work. That scared me and it would break my heart if that was the case. It was worth the chances though. During our consult we talked about since it had been more the 10 years since my husband had the vasectomy, there was a possibility that it wouldn’t be able to be reversed with surgery. The hard part is they don’t know that until the day of the surgery and once they’re in there. Since that was a possibility and with the possibilities of the success rates, we decided on also collecting and freezing sperm as our back up plan. That way we have it in case we ever need to go a different route for fertility.
That morning when we woke up to drive to Seattle, I was so excited! I’ll admit I was nervous too! My husband, Travis had to be put under anesthesia so that always has its own risks. The check-in and getting prepped for surgery went great. I got to sit in the back with him and talk to all the nurses and doctors about what was expected before they took him back to the operation. The surgery lasted around 3 hours and then another hour in the recovery room afterwards. Travis was a little out of it. The nurses all thought it was hilarious that he kept asking for a steak anytime they asked if he wanted anything else to eat. Then they sent us on our way with some ice packs for his parts.
The recovery process was a little painful for him but who can blame him. There were lots of bags of peas used and lots of resting. He was able to be back to his daily routine after a few days. Of course, they tell you to abstain from intercourse for two to three weeks which let’s be honest when you’re wanting to start trying to have a baby, feels like forever! Currently we’re still in the process of trying to conceive but I’m excited to keep you guys updated every step of the way.
For anyone that is going through fertility issues it’s not an easy thing. Just don’t give up hope, there is options out there. I know there’s times where it feels impossible but just know you’re not alone!
Resolve.org (Online support groups, provides great resources)
Thencomesfamily.com (online forums & support groups)
IHR.com (Fertility support groups, Resources & info into different fertility options)
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Until next time,