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The change I want to make in life

New Years brings new goals! I wouldn’t say mine are necessarily goals, but I have some self-improvements I want to make this year in my life. Heck who am I kidding?  I’ve been wanting to make these self improvements for a long time now! It’s everyday stuff that I need to improve and there is always room for improvement in life. I know I need to make these changes to help get both my mental and physical health back on track. As much as I keep talking about them, I need to put in the action and make these things a priority in my life on an everyday basis. Your mental and physical health are both extremely important to have healthy and for some reason I keep veering off from those being an important focal point. Which leads me to my first one…

Focus more on my mental and physical health

I mean that should already be my number one focus. It’s not like I completely neglect it but it’s an area in my life that can be greatly improved. I need to make sure to take my vitamins everyday and staying on top of medications better! I should put more effort into getting exercise and eating healthier foods!

Having better eating habits

I love to snack and that’s fine, but I always seem to pick the worst times I want a snack. Like late at night. Even too late into the afternoon and then it ruins everything for dinner, which then leads me to eat dinner super late into the night. It’s a horrible cycle I need to break. As I said above, I need to eat healthier foods because at least if I snack, I can at least make sure to pick a healthier snack. Another thing I need to start doing when it comes to better eating habits is to eat breakfast since it is an important meal. I’m just never hungry for breakfast so I need to find some good breakfast alternatives. If any of you have suggestions, I would LOVE to hear them!

Doing things that bring me happiness

I get so overwhelmed sometimes from stress that I need to stop myself in those moments and do something to bring a little joy into my day even if it’s only for a little while. Do something to bring the stress level back down. Music is something I know I can turn to when I need cheering up. Music is what has helped me during my times of need. When I was struggling through my addiction and into my recovery music saved me! It sounds weird but every time I’m feeling down, I put some headphones in and blast some music. I can automatically feel my blood pressure lower and you don’t feel alone anymore. Another love of mine is arts and crafts of all kinds and they always help calm me a little when I’m feeling anxiety or stressed out. I was finally able to unpack all my arts and craft supplies into a room of its own at our new house, so I need to start utilizing that more often. Lastly adult coloring books and puzzles are a life saver! You can just zone out and focus on that whenever you need a break from life. Also, a plus I can do this while I listen to music!!!

Thinking more positively

This is a major one! My anxiety can take me to some negative head space a lot of times and I need to remind myself that it’s my anxiety or depression talking. I’ve noticed lately I’ve been a little more aware of when I’m doing this in the moment, but I can always improve this more. I know when I start to think about things in a positive head space everything just works out better overall.

Stoping negative self talk and self doubting

I am always doubting myself. Doubting that I can do something, that I’m good enough or worth it. I NEED to STOP doing this! It is so unhealthy for my mental state and overall health. I need to believe in myself because the times I have, I’ve surprised myself and was more then capable. My husband constantly reminds me and pushes me to show my worth and that I can do anything I set my mind too. I’m just the one that has a hard time believing in that. I AM WORTH IT AND I AM CAPABLE!

I can’t go through life thinking I can ALWAYS control EVERYTHING in my life

If you talked to my husband about this he would go on and on about how I feel the need to control every aspect of my life. Which I guess in a way is great that I know what I want and how I want them to be done BUT reality is I CAN’T control EVERYTHING!! As much as I would love to, I need to remember that everything happens when it’s supposed to. I just need to work on my patience because so far, I’ve learned in life everything always seems to work out the way it should so maybe I should save myself the stress from thinking I can control it all.

Speaking up for myself and feelings more

I tend to keep things to myself from fear of being judged for however I’m feeling at the time. I don’t like upsetting anyone, so I have a hard time with confrontation. I rather avoid the situation and person all together, then the thought of having a possible fight with someone because they might not like what I have to say.I love to help people whenever I can but I feel like people take advantage of my kindness. My husband is always pushing me to speak up for myself more. To teach me that I have a foot to stand on and to not be afraid to let someone know when they’ve upset me. I love that he pushes me to be a better person. I honestly don’t know where I would be today in life without him by my side.

I have a feeling 2020 will be a great year!! It will be an even better year for myself if I really take the time to be more self aware and putting all these things into action! I can’t wait to share with all of you the adventures and obstacles the new year will bring. I hope you all join me for the ride!

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Love always,


P.S. I would love to hear from you below about any goals you have for the upcoming year or if you have similar struggles in life you’re trying to improve!


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